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Conscious In-Fertility

Posted on September 29th, 2014 | Filed Under Featured, infertility, Life Balance, Self Care

What does it mean to be conscious in our fertility efforts? Especially when getting pregnant is a challenge? Being ‘conscious’ is a word that is tossed around a lot of late, so let’s take a closer look at the formal meaning of the word ‘conscious’.
con•scious pronounced [kon-shuh s]

1. aware of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts, surroundings, etc.
2. fully aware of or sensitive to something
3. having the mental faculties fully active
4. known to oneself; felt
5. aware of what one is doing


When I read this definition with the eyes or filter of my in-fertility experience, I realize, in many ways, I was, at times, unconscious about the way I walked through this journey we call in-fertility. I was aware that I wanted a baby. I prayed for a baby. I thought I needed a baby. I would, in fact, do anything just about anything, jump through any hoop for a baby. And as this desperate desire caused my awareness to become more and more tunneled vision, it became acute and all-consuming.

So, if the desire for that baby inherently blocks out (to some degree) other awareness of our existence, sensation, thoughts, and surroundings outside the full awareness necessary to make wise choices and live fully, how can one walk through in-fertility fully ‘conscious’?

The answer is as simple as in the answers similar questions of awareness or enlightenment in other cultures and throughout the religions and traditions. Living in the Now. I realize that this might sound ludicrous when one is in the despair of in-fertility. Who wants to be there? But behind the mind, just below the despair, in the breath, is Now. And when you can reach Now, all is well. After all, what else do we have? The past is done, and does not have to prescribe our future. Our future is still malleable to our intent and actions. And now is perfect. We breathe. We are. We are okay.

My in-fertility journey was anything but conscious in the beginning, which is why I wish to share my story – a sort of ‘what NOT to do’ testimony. The lessons that I now share were learned deep into my journey, and the jewels of that journey are rich and many. You can gather your own jewels, too. here are a few tips on how to begin that for yourself.

One. Don’t go it alone. There are organizations and groups out there with women just like you, struggling and feeling isolated. Join Resolve or a group at your place of worship, or consider starting your own group on MeetUp.com. Connecting with other women who are dealing with the same emotions you are is incredibly healing. Some of my dearest friends and soul sisters came from being involved with Resolve and working with The Fertile Soul.

Two. Gather your Fertility Team. Don’t go it alone! Gather the experts who can best support you – ones that you can trust to have your best interest at heart. Gather your doctor, your acupuncturist, your body worker, your yoga teacher, your nutritionist and your coach. Knowing your team has your back allows you to let go of some of the stress you are carrying.

Three. Don’t go it alone! Bring your God, Creator, your Higher Power into your life. A strong connection with your Creator will give you strength when you most need it. Going through infertility is often a time when we question our faith, and move away from our traditional spiritual practice. Embrace that this is a time for your spirituality to mature and expand into one that is more meaningful and alive in your heart. Even five minutes a day, BEing quiet, BEing aware that you are a spiritual BEing having a human experience will ease the stress that our mind creates.

Four. Don’t go it alone! Pull together all the above and take all of it to your Journal. Your Journal can be your most trusted place to be authentic with where you are in this process. It is a safe place to be honest with your fears, and release them. This is the perfect tool to bring about awareness…consciousness. The practice of journaling creates space for self-inquiry, self-connection, release and inspiration – even creativity – which is the energetic force we wish to cultivate!

Allow these tools to heighten your ability to stay conscious on your fertility journey, and you will be enriched, aware and more connected with you.

Love & Light,

Your Time to Blossom?

Posted on March 15th, 2014 | Filed Under Personal Growth

I ran across this quote the other day – “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin

I love this quote as it so beautifully expresses the duality of the dilema – there is risk of vulnerability if we visibly blossom.  And there is the  risk of never fully experiencing our potential if we make ourselves small,  hold all our possibilities tight, like  a bud.  Did you get messages in your upbringing that it was not appropriate to be seen or heard?  Not okay to be ‘big’?   ‘Too big for your britches’ is a funny expression, but what a limiting message lies therein!  Were you taught to make yourself small?

What thoughts  does this quote invoke in you?  At this time in your journey?  Are you ready to expand?  Have you feelings of expansiveness trying to bust out?  Have you discovered that making yourself small does not serve the world?  Have you come to that crossroads where it is time to choose to take the risk to blossom?  And your life, as you know it, must shift in order to accomodate your new expression of self?

What is the risk?

Sometimes we fear that our loved ones will not accept the ‘new’ you.  Indeed, some friendships may fall away – as there is a time and season for all things.  Can you afford to let your season pass?

Soon Spring will be upon us,  the season of new growth.   Before that energy arrives, allow yourself to sit with these thoughts and feelings of holding back your fullest potential.   Allow that potential to be seen in the soft moonlight of your awareness.  When you are ready to blossom, allow the sun to shine upon you!   And make room for new growth and promise!

Push the Pause Button!

Posted on May 23rd, 2011 | Filed Under Life Balance, Self Care

My four year old daughter has now mastered how and when to push the pause button on the television remote.  Usually this action is taken so as not to miss her favorite show  when needing a potty break!  Children that age are so eager to experience EVERYTHING that they become desperate not to miss ANYTHING.  Whether it is ‘push the pause button!’ for the potty break or ‘five more minutes’ at the playground that they are asking for, they are, in their own little way, fully experiencing the NOW or engaging in the present moment.

It occurred to me that as adults our moments are filled with so many thoughts, responsibilities and tasks, that experiencing the NOW or present moment almost requires us to “push the pause button” on everything else going on around us, and even within us.  While experiencing calm in the midst of the storm may be reached by some who have perfected the art of meditation or enlightenment, most of us are still looking for ways to carve out snippets of time and space to experience being in the present through quiet and uninterrupted meditation or prayer.

A wonderful tool for living in and between the two worlds of EVERYTHING and NOW is mindfulness.

Mindfulness allows us to continue in our day to day activities of human ‘DOing’ to experience human ‘BEing’.  Practicing mindfulness is the art of being fully present with yourself in whatever you are doing or experiencing, without having to step away or out of your life.  As busy women, we often delve into the much admired ability to multitask – it makes us feel productive, important and allows us to feel like we are getting a lot done.  After all, that is what is encouraged in our culture – the yang energy of doing, doing, doing.  Being productive feels good!  It feels like action!  We like the kudos we get from our accomplishments being witnessed and we like checking things off our To Do List.  Have you ever added something to you To Do List after you did it just so you could check it off?  We all have!  The problem with staying in the energy of yang is that eventually, it depletes.  And more importantly, it diminishes experiencing the fullness of Being in the NOW.   Has this ever happened to you?  You are driving somewhere and your mind wanders and then all of a sudent you notice you don’t remember the last few minutes of your driving and wonder how you drove safely without being aware of driving at all?  That is the opposite of mindfulness.  You didn’t fully experience those moments, those moments in time are gone and they cannot be retrieved.

One thing I hear people say all the time is “there isn’t enough time” or “time flies”.  We all have the same twenty four hours a day.  And we all have thoughts, responsibilities and tasks that fill every hour of each of those, but we also have the ability to slow down.  To slow down time.  We slow down time by experiencing it as fully as possible.  By being mindful.  Remember those long, endless summers of our childhood?  We can recapture some of that feeling if we choose to live in the moment, and not live in the past where things cannot be changed and not live in the future thinking constantly of what happens next – of our To Do List.  Being fully in the moment has the magical effect of slowing down time.

Another benefit to mindfulness is our peace of mind.  When not eternally engaged in yesterday and tomorrow, not in the Doing but rather in the Being, we allow our minds to slow down, and make room for peace.  Experiencing peace in each moment.  Then expanding that peace to being mindful of the task at hand – whether that is washing dishes, bathing our child or taking out the trash.  Cultivating the ability of mindfulness in all aspects of our lives allows us to push our inner pause button – we can still be in the world, and do all the things we must to live in this world, but we are experiencing it in our way, and at our pace, rather than the hectic, sometimes even frantic pace of our culture.

How can you ‘push the pause button’ today and allow mindfulness to penetrate your Being from the inside out?

Expand your peace!

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